Happy New Year! I hope that it’s filled with moments that lead you into becoming the best you that you can be. Perhaps some of you, like me have decided to exercise more and eat better. Those are excellent resolves, especially if you ate like I did over the holidays. But, this year I have decided to do one more thing, maybe you can implement this into your year’s resolve as well, to Whine Less and Fight More. I guess you are wondering, hmmm Angela, what the heck are you talking about? Well, I’m glad you asked. 🙂
Let me tell you how I came up with this. A few days ago, I had a conversation with my good sister friend. I kind of expected this conversation to be similar to some of our previous conversations about conflict with her husband and family. But, her first sentence more than got my attention, it made my heart leap for joy. She said, Angela, I realize that I have been fighting all wrong. My words were not building up my marriage or my family. My words, were tearing us down. I want my marriage. So, I decided to start my day with prayer and reading my Bible; I have to fight differently.
This part made me laugh. You know how it is when you’ve been relaxing a bit and someone, like your spouse asked you about housework? It can kinda strike that annoyance nerve. When her husband came in and asked that question, she answered him differently than she had before. She was feeling peaceful, so her answer was peaceful. The result of the peaceful answer, he started cleaning the living room. She said, I’ll start dinner soon. He insisted that she rest, because she needed it. WHAT?! This really does work!
What gave them both a change of heart and perspective? The movie, The War Room. If you haven’t seen it yet, please do yourself a favor and watch it. It will give you a different perspective on how to go to war for your relationships. Especially those that it seems like your fighting has been futile. You love them but you get exhausted at the thought of seeing them because you know that an argument is going to ensue.
In the movie, the challenge was with a married couple with a daughter that was out of sync with one another. It was looking a little rough for them and they were feeling tired; not knowing if the relationship was worth saving. The older woman in the movie coached the wife on how to go to war for her family. Though the movie was about a married couple, the principles are the same no matter what the area is that you want to see change in.
So, I challenge you as we journey to becoming a “Better Version of Ourselves in 2016, Lets determine to have Less Whining and More War.
There are a few verses that come to mind when I think about Less Whining and More War. One is 2 Corinthians 10:3-5-3 (New Living Translation) We are human, but we don’t wage war as humans do. 4aWe use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments.
The 2nd is Proverbs 15:1-4 1A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare. 2The tongue of the wise makes knowledge appealing, but the mouth of a fool belches out foolishness. 3The Lord is watching everywhere, keeping his eye on both the evil and the good. 4Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.
Lastly, Proverbs 14:1 1A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.
The last one really causes me to pause, because I never want to be that woman who tears down her own home by the words that I speak. It’s a frightening thought to me. But, I can definitely see how it can happen.
My pattern for this season, is that I would like to put one of my personal poems with each blog. (if you stroll through some of the recent post, you will see a link at the bottom of the post to hear me reading one of my poems.) I didn’t have one that I really found fitting for this one. The youtube link below is from the movie, The War Room. It’s the prayer. Very profound!
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Happy New Year!!
Here’s the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_WpfkFyG5qQ